How can it be that easy, to abandon babies?

Just learnt about a the shelter for babies in Singapore, Sanctuary House, which was set up since 2005 in this news. Their "business" has grown, sadly.

Not that I don't pity these abandoned babies, but adopting them is not the way.

Ideally, the parents must ... still be fully, or as much as they could to be responsible for them. Yes, the abandoned ones should be taken care of, but I think it is very unwise to directly or indirectly excuse their parents of their responsibilities.

Shouldn't it be considered a crime for one to not want to raise his/her children? Thus, they should be tracked down, and made to be responsible as much as possible. Similar to bankruptcy, but more than it, at the very minimal, a portion of their income/assets must be given to the child indefinitely.

In addition, since a child is related by lineage to his family members and relatives, as long as can track down any of them, they also be somehow made to bare the financial burden. The objective here is not so much as to reduce number of abandoned, but to make everyone aware of the consequence of irresponsible (aka extra-marrital) sex.

The above is really at the bare minimum because financial is just one of the many aspects in raising up children.

Thus, think about it, at present the society/nation/community is baring the burden, i.e. all of us are bearing such increasing burden. If people are concern enough to tell people off because they let kids step on MRT seats, then shouldn't we be more concern to scold [young] people who gets too intimate, regardless in public or in private.

Beware of romance

The first definition from a Google search for define:romance is

love affair: a relationship between two lovers

Sound ok to me initially, but what exactly does the word "affair" imply?

These are found from a similar Google search for define:affair:

Definitions of affair on the Web:
matter: a vaguely specified concern; "several matters to attend to"; "it is none of your affair"; "things are going well"
a usually secretive or illicit sexual relationship
a vaguely specified social event; "the party was quite an affair"; "an occasion arranged to honor the president"; "a seemingly endless round of social functions" wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
An affair is a form of nonmonogamy. The term may be used to describe infidelity in marriage. It may be used as a euphemism and in some cases to add glamour to an illicit liaison. Describing a relationship as an 'affair' may be inaccurate or intentionally damaging. ...en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affair

Wow!!! So, beware!

Start courtship early

This is an interesting and good idea: start writing love letters to express your love to your spouse to be, before you know who is he/she. I heard this in a talk by the Generations of Virtue Ministry.

Express how you have live each moment of your life maturing and preparing yourself for him/her. E.g. You do not flirt with others. You have always behaved as if your spouse is just next to you. Your plans of how you would take good care of him/her.

How touching it is to read such love letters of your spouse when you get married later.

An advice to loving couples.

Do not expect your husband/wife will give you happiness. It won't happen.
Do invest to give your wife/husband happiness.

Courtship

Regarding courtship, how should it be defined. To persuade someone that you can be her good lover, husband and a good father, etc? Then, how to persuade, or to prove it? Yes, how to prove? Fundamentally, it is about character. However, we don't start to mold our character when you want to woo a girl. So, if we think this way that having a good character = courtship, then, one should start before having a target or even before understanding such stuffs. Shouldn't small boys be educated to aim to be a good lover/husband/father from young by building a good character.