Courtship

Regarding courtship, how should it be defined. To persuade someone that you can be her good lover, husband and a good father, etc? Then, how to persuade, or to prove it? Yes, how to prove? Fundamentally, it is about character. However, we don't start to mold our character when you want to woo a girl. So, if we think this way that having a good character = courtship, then, one should start before having a target or even before understanding such stuffs. Shouldn't small boys be educated to aim to be a good lover/husband/father from young by building a good character.